{"id":137655,"date":"2023-09-19T13:09:40","date_gmt":"2023-09-19T13:09:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/magdelaine.net\/?p=137655"},"modified":"2023-09-19T13:09:40","modified_gmt":"2023-09-19T13:09:40","slug":"i-lust-for-sex-with-other-men-and-want-to-suggest-an-open-relationship-to-my-husband-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/magdelaine.net\/lifestyle\/i-lust-for-sex-with-other-men-and-want-to-suggest-an-open-relationship-to-my-husband-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"I lust for sex with other men and want to suggest an open relationship to my husband | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DEAR DEIDRE: I\u2019M so excited by the thought of what sex would be like with other guys that I\u2019m going to suggest to my husband that we have an open relationship.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve only ever slept with him and I am so desperate to put my fantasies into action, but I don\u2019t want to wreck my marriage.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m 27 and my husband is 30. We got together when I was 17 and we married when I was 22.<\/p>\n
People think I\u2019m lucky to have settled down with my first love, and I am \u2014 except I feel like I\u2019ve missed out on so many experiences.<\/p>\n
I adore him and our sex is good and loving, but I wonder if it might be better with someone else?<\/p>\n
And even if it\u2019s not better, it will be different.<\/p>\n
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My fantasies about other men started when a guy chatted me up in a cafe.<\/p>\n
He was so good-looking and, even though I brushed him off, that night I found myself thinking about him while I pleasured myself. <\/p>\n
The next time my husband and I had sex, I imagined he was the other guy and my orgasms were off the scale.<\/p>\n
Since then, I\u2019ve often found myself flirting with men. I don\u2019t want to split up with my husband, so surely an open relationship would be the perfect answer?<\/p>\n
It\u2019s OK for him \u2014 he slept with a few girls before we met.<\/p>\n
DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>Open relationships are not the magic formula that many are looking for.<\/p>\n In order for non-monogamy to work, you both need to be secure in your relationship, be excellent communicators and be able to completely trust each other.<\/p>\n All too often, readers contact me when similar arrangements go wrong \u2013 someone has felt undermined, jealous or, worse still, fallen for the third person.<\/p>\n If you are insistent you want to try an open relationship, make sure you discuss the arrangement carefully with your husband and agree the rules.<\/p>\n Would you be able to sleep with the same third person multiple times?<\/p>\n Would you want to know who the other person was? <\/p>\n Would you go on dates with the third person or would it be purely about sex?<\/p>\n It would be better for your marriage to reboot your sexual relationship with your husband instead.<\/p>\n My support pack, 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex, should help.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\nMost read in Dear Deidre<\/h2>\n
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